I bring you from the hands of our companions of Babies and More a fragment of the emission of one of the programs "Good evening and Buenafuente" broadcast on Antena 3. In it Berto Romero (one of the collaborators of Buenafuente), recreates three situations quite frequent in the treatment that adults give to children.
I am the first one, although I have always felt comfortable with children, and I have had the opportunity to work with them on several occasions, I had an idea of motherhood / fatherhood that differs quite a bit from the way I treat my children .
For not extending this explanation much, I will tell you that some of the convictions I had before I had my first child, disappeared at the time I became pregnant: already then I accepted that I would not bear to let him sleep alone at night (and less if he cried) , and that he would prefer to use the power of dialogue rather than punishment.
And now I am convinced that we should treat children the same as we do with adults. With our friends, coworkers, family, couple, etc. We have a respectful treatment that excludes shouting, punishment and free irony. Instead we are understanding, dialoguing, we have patience and try to put ourselves in their place. Shouldn't it be like that (and with much more reason) with our little ones? I know that it is not good to generalize and that many of us keep in mind that children are also people who are affected by the way we interact with them. But how would we feel if we saw each other “from the outside” while threatening or ridiculing our little ones?
In this video you can see three most common situations in everyday life with children, they address the following topics: leave children alone in their room while crying, minimize their pain and feelings when they fall and "force" (or almost) to share in the park.
The kids they need to feel safe at night to sleep peacefully, it is a matter of survival (although we do not believe it) since not long ago the human puppies did not have a safe and comfortable room where to spend the rest hours. That is to say that if the parents did not remain by their side, they were left without protection. Accompanying them when they are revealed or while they sleep is the least we can do for them.
Y What happens when they get hurt?, if the situation occurs in public (read a park) it seems that the elderly are ashamed to take care of the child correctly. By good I mean not only to heal the wound, but also to take care of their feelings, we all like that when we suffer someone understands our pain.
And now we go with a controversial aspect where they have been: share properties. My children (and I think that in general all children) can become generous by nature at the time they decide. They care about sick little friends, give them crafts and hug them spontaneously, if they want to leave them toys (which they do when they decide) well, if not then too.
I think that people should feel free to share or not objects that are ours, and I think it is right that at one point the children do not want to leave their belongings, in fact I would not lend many of the things that I carry in my bag, although I do help others when they need it and whenever I can. It is a teaching to learn to make decisions, and also to express themselves correctly even if what we say does not please the other.
I liked the video, it's fun and you can clearly see how ridiculous our position would be if we treated some adults the way we do (sometimes) with children.
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