Following a post published in Baby Blog of El Mundo, the eternal debate about the methods for sleeping children.
The author, who does not know if she will have children or how they will sleep, exposes two extreme positions on the subject and one that she poses as intermediate but for me it is the same as one of the two.
On the one hand, he speaks of the famous and controversial method of Dr. Estivill, with which I make it clear that I do not agree at all to say it in an elegant way, that it is nothing more than a behavioral method that causes an unnecessary distress to the baby and that as It has been proven, it has consequences for the child who becomes more fearful and insecure.
On the other, he exposes the method proposed by Rosa Jové in Sleeping without tears, which we have also talked about a lot (both about the author and the book) that he recommends among many other tips for a more comprehensive upbringing, the colecho or sharing the bed with children.
He also talks about Jo Frost's “intermediate” position in “Ask Supernnany” that I find it very similar to the first method.
In general I don't like to position myself on sides or put a label on the way I raise my daughters. Simply because of my way of being and as opposed to the first option that seems too violent to me, I am much more in favor of Jové's philosophy, in fact I am a breastfeeding mother on demand and also prolonged, and occasionally I enjoy sharing the bed in family, without being a “collector” at all costs.
As Silva (the author of the post) says intimacy in the couple is necessary and not all couples have a good time sleeping with children, which is also true.
But for those who believe that you have to take sides by some method, I must tell you that there are a lot of intermediate options, that the most important thing is to know your child, be there for what you need, give him confidence, and basically practice a nurturing, Respectful and tolerant.
