In my native country we say “after a taste, a fright” and it is a phrase that children use to perform inappropriate behavior with the knowledge that they will then receive a punishment from their parents.
A phrase that contains the short-term effect of a punishment. We understand by punishment the fact of applying a physical or psychological sanction to penalize inappropriate behavior. A widespread and negative custom in the way of exercising discipline in our children.
The punishment can be physical (like a spanking) or psychological (screaming, scolding, disqualification) or the deprivation of something that the child considers desirable; which is the least harmful for the child and is known in behavioral psychology as the cost of response. The well used response cost probably eliminates inappropriate behavior.
Physical or psychological punishment does not eliminate unwanted behavior, it only suppresses it in the presence of the person who applies it. The punished child associates the punishment with the one who executes it more than with the unacceptable behavior; thereby avoiding and rejecting those who punish him instead of changing his attitude. On the other hand when punishment is used very often as the only way to correct loses its effectiveness.
It is very important to point out that aggression is not an adequate example and the results of punishment may be fear, tension or withdrawal. In some cases, the child's frustration can cause a major disorder.
If the Punishment (response cost) that I mentioned before is to be used is to deprive the child of something very desired: watching television, playing with friends, etc. It must be combined with positive techniques, since punishment does not teach proper behavior, it only penalizes it. We must show you what the accepted behavior is and praise it when you are doing it. We always scold children when they do something wrong, but we forget to praise and reward them when they are behaving well, and this is extremely important in the education of children. Praise from parents is a reward for them who always seek the approval of their relatives.
