"June 4, 2018 and there are still machismos". With this phrase so convincing begins the allegation of Jana, a 13-year-old girl who is making everyone reflect with an experience lived in the first person, and that demonstrates, once again, that society continues full of macho prejudices.
Jana went to the institute dressed in a shirt and shorts, but the insults she received for her dress, far from cowardly, made her realize that there is still a way to go to achieve equality. His words, shared by his father on his Facebook account, have quickly gone viral.
This is the text that Miquel Àngel Barrios shared on his Facebook profile, accompanied by a photograph of his daughter's dress, for which he was cruelly attacked at the institute.
Machismo in society
Jana's letter begins by referring to the amount of prejudices and macho comments that still today They continue to support women. Comments so ingrained that many times they may even go unnoticed, but that constitute another form of violence.
"Why are you so slutty? Don't you teach too much? In my opinion you shouldn't be dressed like this. Does your mother know that you are dressed like that in high school? And, apart from this, I had to put up with the writing on my chair: slut ""June 4, 2018 and there are still machismos. Today I decided that to go to the institute I would wear one of my favorite shirts. One that left a small piece of my belly exposed. I also put on a shorts. 13 years and The comments I received have been:
I repeat: today, June 4, 2018 and because I am a woman and because I like to dress as I like to dress I have received insults and I have been treated as “GUARRA” and “PUTA”.
The role of women in the fight for equality
The girl continues her argument rethinking about the role of women in the fight against inequality and machismo. Because while it is true that women have been fighting for years, it is not less than sometimes, certain macho attitudes and comments are so present in society that it is the women themselves who reproduce them against others.
"All the comments I describe have been from WOMEN. I wonder:
Weren't we the first to wear a purple tie on March 8?
Were we not the first to defend women?
Are we not the ones who are against machismo and fight for real equality?
Are we not the ones who have fought for a society without any gender difference? "
"Machismo is not only for a man to hit, rape or verbally abuse a woman. Machismo is also to receive insults for the measure of your dress and for having been judged by how much meat you teach in the opinion of other women. And yes, you are the executioners, those of the lilac tie on March 8, many of you who were almost voiceless screaming against machismo. "
"The society neither advances nor regresses if we judge ourselves between ourselves and the women we continue trying to whores for having been with more than one boy and we are silent that they have done the same. To make a society equally true, the first we would have to defend ourselves are ourselves".
The importance of education
And finally, Jana gives everyone a great lesson of respect and empathy encouraging girls who have criticized her to open her mind, to accept others for how they are and to fight together for equality.
He also recognizes that thanks to the education you have received at home, understand that all women are equal and deserve the same respect, regardless of how they dress or the tastes they have.
"Your words have made me reflect on who I am as a woman and I have also thought about who you are. As friends, as people and, above all, as women. You represent everything I do not want to be and against what I fight. Now, perhaps , it's your turn to reflect on yourself. ""I have commented at home. I am very calm because I know who my friends are and who are the people who really love me. I will not stop being who I am because of rude girls and short of understanders who only know how to open their mouths to mess with me by how seen. "
"So much so that you treat me as a golfa, slut or fresh. I know who and how I am. I would treat you as if you were animals for not knowing how to respect people of your same sex. I feel sorry for you because to feel strong you have to go insulting people for their way of dressing. And in a group, of course. Because only in a group are you strong. "
"I am as female as you, although I have the noses of dressing as I like to dress. And the day you go shorter than usual, do not expect any insult from me. Learn to treat people for who and how they are, never for what they appear. That who decides to teach the belly does not always seek to link more and that if someone chooses to show the ass, does not imply that they want to be touched. "
"I have heard thousands of times insults and nonsense towards women throughout their clothes, short or short. My clothes are as short as your mentality and if you still do not accept that women can dress as we please, you can return to the Stone age where it seems that you have come out. You are the machismo against which we fight".
"We are in the 21st century and it seems that we are in prehistory, treating women as objects and everything for something as simple and personal as the way of dressing. I do not judge you by how you dress and I have never commented on what and how much you teach, you know why? I respect you as human beings and, above all, as women. Because they have taught me at home that nobody is more or less a woman because they are more or less covered up. That our femininity does not depend on our dress; only of our feelings and I am neither more nor less woman to tell you. For me, being a woman means not judging other women for being the way they are. "
"We are all women and we should all respect each other"
With this reflection we see again the importance of educating our children in equality since they are young, keep them from gender stereotypes, let them freely express their emotions and take great care of our speech.
But we must not only put emphasis on educating our sons in equality, but also our daughters, because we have already seen that according to some studies, girls who grow up within an egalitarian family model and in a non-sexist environment, show broader and less stereotyped interests.
As we always say, change is in us; in the parents Let's help our sons and daughters to grow up happy, free and without prejudice. Let's bet on an egalitarian society.
