I always thought that when I was a father would have three children. I am the room of six brothers and that of being many at home has always seemed to me as normal, although I must confess that there were times when it seemed to me that we were too many (not because I wanted to eliminate any brothers, but because I put myself in father's place and I got sweaty). Then I saw my two cousins, with whom we shared much of our childhood, and they always had an intense love-hate relationship I soon knew that two could be a conflicting number.
But to get to three you first have to have two, and when we had two children we were so happy and we had everything so controlled that we doubted whether to get the third one. In the end we decided and we have three beautiful children. After a while, no less than four years since we completed the family, I am willing to give the following advice: Don't even think about having a third child (unless…).
1. Be willing to go back to sleep
Do not have a third child unless you are willing to go back to sleep, because if the second is already one or two years old, you will have entered that stage when children sleep a little better, so do you, and with a third party everything will be as before. That baby gemidito because he is hungry at all hours, that morning poop that you must change trying to move it little so that he does not wake up, those nights walking with the child in his arms because there is no way to catch the dream, and all this when You have two, who may also have their bad nights.
In Babies and more, is it true that the mothers of three children are the most stressed?2. Have a lot, but a lot of patience
Don't have a third child unless you have a lot but a lot of patienceBecause having a child can be very hard, but there comes a day when he grows up and everything is going better. Having two can be very hard, but there comes a day when the second grows and it seems that everything is going better, and at home there are two adults for two children. But having three is very hard because for the first time there are more children than adults, and there are times when the imbalance is such that one is left alone with the three and in those moments the stars are conjugated so that they begin to cry, complain or have a tantrum in unison, each with its moment, and you in the middle , about to burst.
At times like this it seems that all the good manners and bending down to look them in the eye and speak to them with affection and delicacy suddenly forget and start to rave and say incoherent things like "I would leave home right now", "I don't smoke, but I think I'm going for tobacco "or worse: you start laughing for no reason, moments before disconnecting the brain for a while to stop hearing them and enter that moment of minimum energy consumption in which you do not know where you are, or what you do, but you are still breathing and that is why you know that you are still alive.
3. Take well to put one or two washing machines daily
Do not have a third child unless you get along with putting one or two washing machines daily, because the pile of clothes created in an instant is tremendous. Washing it is not a problem either, the washing machine does everything, but by God, what to fold and order it becomes eternal!
4. Have a big car
Do not have a third child unless you have a large car, because you will tell me if not how you are going to take them. We had not taken it into account, but we were lucky that when I put the third chair it fit like a ring to the finger. There was not a millimeter free, but all three could go safe. Then, of course, to see where you put all the tackle associated with going with children in a car, which are not few.
5. Want to start over with a baby
Do not have a third child unless you feel like starting again with a baby, because they are beautiful but tremendously dependent, and they are day and night, and come to take him in his arms at all hours, and the pains return wrist, and back, and ... I think now and I say "I have very clear that I do not want a room ... how lazy."
6. It doesn't matter to you exactly how you can forget what silence is
Don't have a third child unless it gives you exactly the same as you can forget what silence is, because at home there will be noise at all hours. Three boys or girls playing at all hours, laughing, shouting, running, quarreling, crying, being happy, being impatient, being ... children.
7. Be practically antisocial
Do not have a third child unless you are practically antisocial, because of staying with people and appearing with children you already know that it usually ends in chaos, and leaving and leaving children with someone is not something you can repeat very often. Often, more than anything for a matter of responsibility: you will have another baby.
8. You have postponed all your projects to an uncertain future
Do not have a third child unless you have postponed all your projects to an uncertain future, because with three children at home you will already tell me what energy you will have left to get involved in anything. You can go out with people to do some things, but they must be clear that you can cancel it at any time ... in fact, your life projects will decrease in difficulty. What at the beginning was a thesis, writing a book or a new job, gradually becomes much more banal things like reading a book in less than a year, watch a movie in less than three nights or finish a season of a series in less than two months.
9. Do you care little to find out about things that happen in the world days (or years) later
Don't have a third child unless you care little to find out about things that happen in the world days (or years) later. You hear people talk about something and when you ask they tell you that happened days ago. That you find out that an actor has died and when you say "go, what a shame, he has died ... rest in peace", someone tells you that he died two years ago. That at the time of the news in your house you can see drawings, and when you are going to put them on, they only give time, and they are still wrong.
And the series, I repeat, because I love them. But don't have a third child unless it doesn't matter if you do spoilers, because when you are going to see them for years they saw them.
In Babies and more The 12 things that should not be said to a couple waiting for their third child10. Be clear that the little one will become medium
Do not have a third child unless you are clear that the child will become medium, and you know what they say: the medium ones are tremendous. It may not be true, but it is common to see that middle children are the ones who give more headaches to their parents, probably because they are the ones who have less baby time with their parents.
The eldest has a lot of exclusive time for dad and mom before having a brother, the second is only the little one until the third arrives, that if he is the last one he will always be the little one of the house even when he is four years old, as mine is , that I still see him in many aspects as "the baby" (and it turns out that at his age, the middle one, Aran, already had a brother of almost a year).
11. Know that you will never regret having had it
Do not have a third child unless you know that you will never regret having had it, because if you like children, if you like being a father, if you enjoy them and love them madly, you will never regret having a third child. I have said it here on more than one occasion, and I may be wrong, I accept it, but when we doubted whether to have a third child or not I said "I think that if we do not have it, we may regret it one day ... but if we have it, we will never we will regret it. " And today it has been fulfilled.
