One of the reasons that most worry fathers and mothers when it comes to having children is the deposit of energy and strength and how it dwarfs from year to year.
When a mother is young, the energy is almost comparable to that of her baby, so at the level of games, satisfaction, demands and common experiences it is easy (or bearable) to raise him.
When a mother is somewhat older (say from 35 years, to put an age), the energies tend to go somewhat fairer and many mothers (and fathers) feel they do not arrive, that children and their inexhaustible forces end their capabilities often and that "if I know, I have it before."
Whatever the point from which you start, there are mothers who say that with the second they notice that they have less energy and yet there are other mothers who explain that they don't notice much difference, since once you get used to one, there aren't many changes when you have two.
How many years have they been?
Most likely, the crux of the matter is in the age difference of the two children for two obvious reasons: the time that passes, which makes dad and mom older and the difference in care they require The oldest and youngest son.
As to age There is not much to say. It is evident that the more years of difference between the birth of the first child and the second, the more years the father and the mother have and less energy, probably, not being as young as they were with the first.
With respect to the difference of care, the time that most physical demand is the one that includes from birth to 2 or 3 years, when they are more autonomous, they walk and run, they start (some) to sleep more hours in a row, many leave the diaper and for Street no longer ask for so many arms.
Once this period passes, the parents begin to “relax”, to forget all the efforts they have made and to enjoy another kind of upbringing in which the child leaves more space for the parents.
Thus they start to go out more often, the three of them can go to the theater, to the cinema, go on excursions and ultimately live a more active life.
If the second child is born when the parents have become accustomed to “the good life”, it is very likely that the requirements of a new baby will mean a return to the times when they had to dedicate more physical efforts to the care of their child and feel that the energies are not the same (and even that they are not).
However, if the second child comes a little earlier and you start changing diapers more or less when the other has left them, the effort seems to remain more constant and many mothers explain that they really didn't notice much difference with a son than with two.
A third group of mothers would be the ones who feel that by having a second child, work is doubled, regardless of whether the oldest is two or six years old when the other is born.
Personally I can say that from the first to the second I have not noticed much change, although of course, I am not the main caregiver, but my wife. She says yes, despite having 28 years and taking the second of the first 3 years yes notice that the energies are not the same.
And you, How have you lived it?
