My child in his first months of life hated the cuckoo when we went for a walk. It was to place it and immediately begin to cry, so that it ended with Lucas in one arm and in the other hand the stroller. I received many tips: don't have it so much time arms who gets used, do not load it when he cries that babies know a lot will want only arms and will not let you do anything and blah blah blah. Tips I never took into account.
One of the great doubts that we have parents, mainly first-timers is whether keeping the child in the arms can "addicte" the baby. The little one in the womb is in the "ideal" home with the right temperature, protected from noise, smells, sensations that can be annoying.
Once everything is born they are new sensations, of sleeping peacefully in the womb, you must do it in a cradle where there is much more space than in your old “bed”, sheets that are of a new and different texture, different temperature, noise, noise to which he is not accustomed and endless things that will cause him insecurity. The child needs time to adapt to the outside world, that depends on the baby's temperament, because each person is unique and special, with their specific needs and potentials. The toddler will need the support and security that adults can offer.
Crying is the main form of communication that the baby has, many times we think that he only cries when he feels hungry, is wet, cold, etc. Some might think it's tricky. The baby does not have the ability to lie and cheat that we adults have. So if the baby feels a situation of anguish, use the only language he knows: crying. And if he is crying it means that something is wrong. That does not mean that I know only because of a physiological need, I may have heard a menacing noise like closing a strong door. You may still feel nostalgic about the sense of security that the uterus provided, or feel a little lonely.
What is the solution? Arms, wrap it in your arms, speak beautiful words, sing a song softly, explain that everything is fine. Children loaded in arms usually have greater self-esteem and are more independent.
He thinks that the baby is someone who has just arrived from a tired trip, who is confused and worried about knowing if he is going to know how to adapt, find friends, be accepted. The arms of the mother or father would be with an affirmation that the child can count on that person in distressing moments. Cradling it in your arms is like a declaration of love and friendship that you make to your baby.
